Valentine’s Day and The Terrible, Horrible, No-Good, Very Bad Date
Posted byBethany Johnson
Alexa, a witty, sophisticated, capable millennial, has learned to love herself for who she is, and value all the things that make her … well, her.
Early on the morning of Valentine’s Day, she opens her eyes and before moving a muscle, she knows. She just knows.
Aunt Flo is visiting, and Aunt Flo wasn’t expected until next week.
Great. What Next?
With a colossal sigh, Alexa sits up to assess the damage. She reaches for her smartphone to add “laundry bleach” to her grocery shopping app, and as she does, sees her lock screen’s calendar. The reminder that today is Valentine’s Day is all she needs. “Noooooo,” she groans. Why does her period have to start today? Why does this have to be part of her life at all?
Not to worry. “I got this,” Alexa says to herself. Aunt Flo’s visit will not prevent her from having a great day and an awesome date night tonight.
First up? An iron-rich breakfast smoothie. As she stuffs a handful of fresh spinach leaves into the blender, she feels that tell-tale sensation that it’s time to visit the bathroom and “freshen up down there” yet again. She does, and on her way back to the kitchen, acknowledges the usual cramps are about to do their thing and take her out of the game. Having spent the morning in mild discomfort, she knows what’s coming — and ditches the smoothie in favor of a heating pad and the couch.
Take a Timeout
But instead of riding out the storm on her couch, Alexa is up and down more than every hour to change her tampon. Part of her knows this is routine, but the other part is still shocked. Every month (sometimes even more often), her flow defies expectations and surprises her with its power, intensity and volume.
Fighting tears, Alexa texts her date. “Have 2 cancel 2nite, sry!” What will she tell him? Emotionally, she doesn’t have the capacity to think through what will happen next in the relationship, or how she’ll handle the upset. It’s all she can do now to simply survive the next few hours. She wishes once again her reproductive system were simply not a part of her, and that she didn’t have to deal with any of it.
Opening her eyes, Alexa realizes she must have slept. One groggy glance, and she knows it’s late afternoon. She already canceled the date, so even if her uterine muscles are suddenly cooperating, it’s not like tonight can be salvaged.
Or can it?
Let’s Go! … Wait, JK
She did buy a special dress for the evening, and it’d be a shame not to enjoy it. “And since I am feeling better …” she murmurs, “Maybe tonight’s not a total waste after all.”
On a whim, Alexa phones a few single girlfriends to get the scoop.
Punching the dive venue’s address into her GPS, Alexa checks she has everything: Tampons, check. Extra tampons, check. Extra, extra tampons, check. Liners, check. Extra liners, check. It crosses her mind that most women don’t need to carry so much gear.
With a shrug, she’s off.
Aaaaannnnd, no, she’s not. At the first stop light, Alexa recognizes “the feeling” again and does a U-turn. Time to change her tampon. “You’ve got to be kidding me,” she rages, as her abdominal muscles begin tightening yet again. “If it weren’t for this, I’d have the best life. Why do I have to deal with this?”
Hope for Future Valentine’s Days
Our story’s hero feels anything but heroic. She doesn’t realize that her mutinous uterus is one of those things that makes her … well, her.
What Alexa has yet to learn is that she’s not alone. Feeling like you’re the only one experiencing heavier-than-normal periods adds to the dogpile of discouraging symptoms, and like our story’s protagonist, you may start to feel you’re missing out on life.
Well, you’ve come to the right place. Whether you’re a real-life Alexa or know someone who is, ChangetheCycle.com is a safe place where you can see Abnormal Uterine Bleeding/uterine challenges are more common than you think. No, not normal, but common.
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Valentine’s Day can be rough for many reasons, but your period shouldn’t be one of them. Take charge of your health, and chin up: better days are ahead.
- Posted by Bethany Johnson
- On February 7, 2017