Prepare for Your Daughter’s First Period with These Simple Tips
Posted byDiane Hoffmaster
When children are small, parents look at them and can’t imagine them ever becoming adults. Of course, eventually, your rambunctious toddler will grow up. Once the preteen years arrive, you’ll have the joy of tackling touchy subjects like the birds and the bees, and your daughter’s first period. The key to success when it comes to these delicate conversations is to open the line of communication and not wait until a problem arises. If you have a young daughter, start preparing now for discussions about her changing hormones. Here are a few simple tips to get you started.
Choose the Right Time
Knowing when and where to start talking about your daughter’s first period can be difficult. You don’t want to introduce topics she isn’t ready for, but you also don’t want to wait so long that she gets her period and panics. Here are a few tips on how to get the conversation started.
- Make a day of it. Treat your daughter to a spa day where the two of you can have some quality time for the afternoon. Once your day is winding down, approach the conversation in a secluded location without other ears listening in. Eavesdroppers may make her feel awkward.
- Don’t wait until the last minute. Make sure you tackle this conversation before you think she may need to worry about it. You don’t want her to be the only one in her friend group who’s still clueless about how her body works. According to the The Nemours Foundation, the average age for a girl to get her first period is 12. However, remember, everyone develops at her own pace.1
- Location is key. Sometimes, kids feel awkward talking to their parents about delicate subjects. Try discussing your daughter’s first period in the car since she won’t have to look you right in the eye. At bedtime with the lights off is another great location.
How to Get Started
If you don’t even know how to get started discussing your daughter’s period, here are a few guidelines:
- Bring props. Initiate a discussion about your daughter’s changing hormones armed with the right tools. Have a book for yourself that describes the biology and the hormones she’s dealing with. Provide her with a book written for young adults that can speak to her in terms she’ll understand. Bring feminine hygiene supplies and discuss the tools you yourself use to deal with PMS symptoms, whether it’s a heating pad, a yoga mat, or a box of chocolates.
- Encourage her to ask questions. Talking to kids is sometimes like pulling teeth! Try not to let your child exit the conversation without asking questions. Getting more than a nod or a “yes” or “no” can be challenging. Ask open-ended questions that require her to answer you in a full sentence. If you don’t know the answer to her questions, ask a doctor and find out together.
- Assemble a girl’s first period kit. Before you tackle this topic, put together a first period kit for your daughter. Include an assortment of feminine hygiene products and a small calendar for tracking her cycle. You can include an assortment of non-period things as well like lip balm, tissues and a compact mirror. Put it all in a small cosmetic bag for her to keep in her backpack or locker.
Your daughter’s first period is an exciting time in her life, but it can also come with a few challenges and fears to overcome. Hopefully, these tips will help you tackle the conversation with ease.
1“All About Menstruation.” KidsHealth from Nemours. Accessed February 08, 2017. http://kidshealth.org/en/kids/menstruation.html#.
- Posted by Diane Hoffmaster
- On March 22, 2017