Navigating a Girls Sleepover With Aunt Flo in Tow
Posted byBethany Johnson
Kids of all generations have anticipated the childhood getaways where girls can giggle and squeal, making memories all night long without a care in the world. As your little girl grows, though, the iconic girls sleepover or stay-away camp may get a tad more complicated. Aunt Flo sometimes crashes the party.
Not to worry. When your youngster needs to prepare for a potentially awkward situation, you can be equally candid and supportive. Here’s how.
A toolkit doesn’t just equip your kid with necessary supplies. It also gives her peace of mind. Imagine her experiencing “that feeling down there” and knowing she has a variety of supplies to get her through. Show her how different absorbency pads and tampons work, so she can assess her situation real-time and decide which product would work. For example, if the gaggle of girls decides to jump on a trampoline or go swimming, she may opt for a tampon in lieu of her usual pad.
Make the kit fun! Craft a super cute tampon holder or a pouch decorated with pictures that represent her interests. Include her favorite perfume—or better yet a tiny vial of your perfume—to comfort her when she’s away from home.
Next, explain the plan. Suggest that she locate all the bathrooms in her cabin or pal’s house when she arrives. Give her a few expressions she can use to excuse herself subtly from group activities. For example, “Guys, I’ll be right back,” or “Hold that thought. Give me, like, two seconds.”
Show your daughter how a pad or tampon can be wrapped in toilet paper so as not to draw attention to itself in the trash can. Pack an extra long-sleeved T-shirt and show her how to wrap it around her waist to conceal a stain if she should have an accident and bleed through. Nothing is more comforting than a plan … with a backup plan.
Finally, empower your young woman. All the supplies and knowledge in the world won’t help if your girl doesn’t feel at ease with this monthly occurrence. Instilling confidence may sound like a big job, but it’s easier than you think. Casually mentioning these facts in the days before her time away.
- Remind her there may be others at the sleepover with their period. Asking friends whether they’ve been blessed by puberty’s most dramatic arrival is a great way to break the silence.
- Tell her your own story of a girls sleepover when you had to manage your period while trying to have fun with friends. Be sure you express your understanding of how it feels and emphasize how well it turned out for you.
- Explain how she can put others at ease. If this is her first period, she likely won’t want to lead the discussion. However, if she’s done this a few times, she can reverse the embarrassment and use her experience to encourage other girls who may be uncertain about the whole adventure. How empowered she would feel if she used this event to blossom socially, morphing from the nervous girl to the nurturing one in the group.
Applaud your daughter’s bravery. Having fun with friends at a girls sleepover is one of the best memories a kid can grow up with, and no menstrual cycle should interfere with goodness like that. Your gentle encouragement will make all the difference. And when your daughter comes back home beaming, you’ll know you both achieved another special milestone together.
- Posted by Bethany Johnson
- On June 22, 2017